Books, Introverts, and an Honest Look at the INTJ Female

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This post: clues about the INTJ female personality.

I am an INTJ female.

According to the Myer’s and Brigg’s Foundation, the INTJ personality type is

  • vision-oriented
  • conceptual
  • logical
  • critical
  • determined
  • independent

And, I would add- highly perfectionistic and introverted.

INTJs are sometimes nicknamed “the Mastermind” or “the Architect.”

A few famous INTJs who have made their marks on history and in modern times include:

  • Sir Isaac Newton and Stephen Hawking (scientists)
  • Lewis Carol and Jane Austen (writers)
  • Hilary Clinton and Al Gore (politicians)
  • Ulysses S. Grant and Dwight Eisenhower (U.S. presidents and military commanders)

Well-known, albeit fictitious, INTJ types in novels include:

  • Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice)
  • Professor Moriarty (Sherlock Holmes)
  • Gandalf (Lord of the Rings)
  • Jean Valjean (Les Miserables)
All about the INTJ female personality.
The INTJ female personality? Bookish. | image courtesy

INTJS are sometimes heroes.

Frequently villains.

Rarely females.

{INTJs} Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.”

The Meyer’s & Briggs Foundation

Nearly a decade ago, I discovered that I‘m an INTJ personality type.

At the time, I had no idea what this string of letters represented; but it didn’t take long for me to feel like someone had finally explained why I process life the way I do.

And why I often have often felt like a square peg in a round hole; especially within the evangelical church world.

[INTJs] make up just two percent of the population, and women with this personality type are especially rare, forming only 0.8%.”


Suddenly, a lot of things made sense.

To date, I’ve only ever personally met two other INTJs- both males.

I’ve yet to meet another INTJ female.

Although I hear from a lot of them, thanks to this post.

The dynamic of life as an INTJ Christian woman is a topic worthy of an entire book, not just a single blog post.

For today, I’m writing a single post, in hopes of doing what INTJs tend to do best:

Inspire others to become self-aware, pursue personal growth, and reach toward God-given excellence.

Do you know your type?

If you’re not familiar with the Meyer’s & Brigg’s personality profiles, this website- 16 Personalities– is very informational and has a free personality test. (

There’s also a $49 test at the Meyer’s & Brigg’s site, if you prefer a more official test.)

For now, I’ve written something fun and, I hope, insightful: “you know you’re an INTJ female if…”

I think a lot of this will resound with all introverted personalities; but to the INTJ female, the majority of these quirks and traits will likely feel very normal.

You Might Be An INTJ Female If…

1. You’ve always been a bit of an “old soul” in a modern world.

2. Self-awareness has been a part of your psyche, even during childhood.

3. You might have been the teacher’s pet (if you liked the teacher).

4. As a teenager, you seemed overly serious and mature for your age.

5. Rules aren’t a problem for you, unless you happen to not agree with said rules; then you simply negate them in your mind.

6. You’re probably a Highly Sensitive Person.

7. You might type as a 1 or 5 (or maybe an 8) on the Enneagram.

8. You’ve rarely experienced “peer pressure” (because you don’t care what other people are doing or what they think).

9. If you had a choice, you’d NEVER talk on the phone.

10. Things that come easily to other women (like socializing, empathizing, or anything heart-or-right-brain-centered) feels awkward and difficult for you.

11. You often feel like you’re not cut out to be a wife and mother.

12. You don’t really “fit” any stereotype for Christian women.

13. The voice mail on your phone encourages people to hang up and send a text, rather than leave a message (because you won’t listen or call back anyway).

14. You’ve been accused of loving books more than people.

15. You feel physically drained, almost to the point of being ill, after too many consecutive days of having to “extrovert.”

16. Needy or clingy people alarm you.

17. Living like a hermit, at least every once-in-a-while, sounds like paradise.

18. The dictionary, encyclopedia and thesaurus fascinate you.

19. You don’t own a Kindle but it takes an entire room in your house to hold all your books.

20. People who always complain about their problems, instead of trying to fix them, puzzle you.

21. You often understand others but rarely feel understood.

22. It’s challenging for you to work with people who lack vision.

23. You never, ever let yourself feel like a victim.

24. Adults who insist on “not adulting” bewilder you.

25. People have often called you “old-fashioned.”

26. You will never understand why most women talk about their problems, but don’t want solutions to the problems.

27. You’d rather die than give up your autonomy.

28. Empathy isn’t one of your gifts.

29. You find typos and mistakes EVERYWHERE.

30. Emotional drama either shuts you down or makes you want to run.

31. Looking smart is extremely important to you.

32. Solitude literally feels like a friend.

33. You think and ponder a lot more than you actually ever say out loud.

34. It takes a long time for you to trust people and make genuine friendships.

35. You’ve sometimes been called “cold” emotionally.

36. In truth, you’re guarded and reserved with your emotions- not uncaring.

37. Most times, you prefer history over modern trends or ideas.

38. Ideas and facts thrill you to the bone but chit chat bores you.

39. You can get lost in books… and the book store.

40. You’d rather look sophisticated or respectable than socially attractive.

41. There is a solution to every problem, in your mind anyway.

42. Personal space is a big deal to you- yours, and others’.

43. Intelligence is attractive to you.

44. Seeking the greater good is more important to you than catering to the whims of individuals.

45. Over-thinking is your vice.

46. You thrive in an orderly environment.

47. Monotony is difficult for you.

48. Values and principles are intrinsic to your code of living.

49. You have a rich, inner life and prefer your own thoughts and ideas over most people’s company.

50. Ultimately, you trust your “gut” and intuition more than popular opinion.

A few resources I think INTJ female personalities will especially enjoy:

Connecting, the INTJ Way

The fact you’re still reading tells me that you’re either super curious about this INTJ thing, or you’re most definitely and INTJ female.

Either way, let’s connect the old-fashioned introvert way.. which, of course, is NOT over a cup of coffee or by phone.


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Your turn

Are you an INTJ female? Do you know one? Drop a comment below and talk to me.

4 thoughts on “Books, Introverts, and an Honest Look at the INTJ Female”

  1. It wasn’t until recently that I discovered I was an INTJ. In the past, my personality type was ISFJ. I never really felt like it completely fit me though. I suppose there is some margin of error. Some of the questions, I have always felt that I could go either way. Knowing that I now lean more towards being an INTJ makes sense. As a Christian woman, I have felt like an outcast, because I do not fit the mold. I am not the stereotypical bubbly girl who greets everyone and gives them a hug. It makes me uncomfortable. I also find it hard to create deep, meaningful connections. I enjoyed reading your post, because now I do not feel like I am the only one.


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